He is truly my soulmate and I shudder to think that if I had not chosen to marry outside of the church, I would not have had this life with him. Plan on her family trying to torpedo your relationship if you don't convert. You will be kept abreast of political changes within the church that regulate your wife's behavior -- you are probably already aware of several rules she follows. I love him more than anything, but lately, the lack of real time together and the stress of his work impacting how I am made to feel like I'm on eggshells when we do get together almost seems like to much to bear. The system has broken him down and rebuilt him as someone, I fear, I won't be able to respect or feel connected to. Drinkers tend to rely on drink before they can have fun. My family supported me in this. The pressure is mounting for Mormon women to cave in to Western degeneracy, and men are at a loss for what to do about it. My advice would be to date him when he has free time. Their job is HARD.
If it is already an issue in your relationship, then it'll amplify to an extreme if you get married. My husband not only supports me going to church he encourages it because he knows that it is a part of me and makes me happy. It is not easy for a nonmember spouse to understand a three hour worship block plus callings etc. If you marry him, you are committing to accepting him without the church and all that this entails. Never mind the paycheck because I even earn more than him. We try to have a 'date' night although at the moment it is about once a month. If she is full on Mormon, this relationship will go one of two ways: You will convert and change your entire lifestyle and personality to conform with her expectations never to deconvert or you will face severe penalitesor you will break up because you won't convert and change everything about yourself. For whatever reason, none of them ever seemed that interested in me I freely admit this could have been cluelessness on my partand so never turned serious.
I would not have wanted to be dismissed as crazy and unworthy of attention when I was still a member, because it wouldn't have been true. Never marry someone with the goal of a post-marriage conversion. He says he has put-in a lot of his life into his profession and his career is very important to him. The fact that your guy came right out and said he didn't care what you thought and that we was going to spend his money and time the way he wanted indicates that he still thinks of himself as single.
You guys sound like you have a great and committed relationship - a true jewel in this world. On his days off he sleeps all day long. Toxic is the right word. I thought about those deeply spiritual moments I had had in life and how special they were to me. Marriage to the wrong person is extremely difficult. Jack is right about the demographics.